This blog post is all about how to be confident in yourself. Here are 11 easy to execute tips to swear by in your 20s!
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Navigating through life in your 20s is not that easy. You might constantly wonder how to be confident in yourself, especially if you’re new to everything and trying to figure out adulthood.
However, being self confidence is something you NEED to master. Because it’s the only way to land amazing jobs, find true friendships, and not settle for less than what you deserve.
That’s why here’s a blog post with 11 life-changing tips that everyone in their twenties should follow!
11 Tips On How To Be Confident In Yourself
When it comes to self-confidence tips, many people offer random advice such as “wear good clothes to boost your self-confidence.” But these tips won’t work for a long time.
If you truly want to know how to be confident in yourself, you need to focus on your mindset. These 11 practical tips will help you finally start feeling more confident in yourself; regardless of the external factors.
Self Confidence Tips
1. Accomplishment Lists
Write down 20 moments in your life when you felt confident and proud of yourself. I know, 20 seems like a lot, but trust me, once you start, you’ll easily come up with more than 20. Go back to this list when you’re having a bad day.
Make it a daily habit to write down 3 things you’re proud you did today. Accomplishment lists are the key on how to be confident in yourself.
If you want to boost your self confidence, you need to start having your own back! Give yourself more credit for your actions instead of telling yourself that ‘it’s not good enough’.
2. Change Your Failure Stories
You’re gonna fail in this journey. And that’s okay! Just don’t let that failure make you feel like sh*t and then, hold you back from taking action in future.
You might get upset if you fail at something. That’s only human. But that doesn’t mean that you should completely give up. Ask yourself what would you want your role model to do in this situation?
I’m a big paper girl; so here’s another cute notepad to help you process your feelings.
Once you’re feeling normal, analyze your results, see what you’d do differently the next time. Use your failures as building blocks to your success.
3. It Starts With You
The ability to accept yourself as you are is what distinguishes confident and insecure people! And that makes all the difference.
When you feel comfortable in your own skin, you stop looking for other people’s validation. You don’t care if Brittany from accounting thinks you’re funny because that doesn’t define you!
Think of something in yourself that you see as a flaw. People especially get hung up on their physical features. Then, come up with 3 reasons right now, why you love that *flaw*.
4. Fail Epically
Doing things that are scary really boost your self confidence. But we often let our fear of failure hold us back from taking any transformative action. Which in turn, leads to self-doubt.
Let yourself go to the worst case scenarios, push yourself, and let yourself see that you can still survive. Things never go as bad as we imagine. If anything, you’ll learn an important lesson.
The more willing you are to step outside of your comfort zone, the more your self trust and confidence grows.
Related Post : 8 Reasons To Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone Today
5. It’s ok to have a bad day
You can be the ‘Rihannas of the world’ and still have a bad day; no big deal. Just don’t get caught up in the victim cycle of ‘everything bad always happens to me!‘
Also, don’t force or expect yourself to think positive immediately afterward. It does more harm than good.
Sometimes, it’s okay to sit with your negative feelings and just let them be. Come to neutral grounds first, before moving to the positive side.
6. Challenge yourself with small things
Taking challenges head on builds up that ‘I can do this!’ attitude, which is what you’re looking for while asking how to be confident in yourself.
You don’t need to to go on a solo trip or perform on stage right away to boost your self confident. Start by challenging yourself to do small things that you struggle with everyday.
Something as simple as being consistent with your morning routine, or managing your work space, can magically transform your confidence. Because it gives you the impression that you can achieve anything you set your mind to!
Try this free transformation challenge this week to start working on your confidence.
7. Self confidence affirmations
How you talk to yourself really determines how you feel about yourself. You think that if enough people told you that you’re beautiful, capable and worthy, you’ll eventually start to believe it.
But you won’t. Until you start believing in yourself first.
That’s why it’s so important to intentionally repeat positive affirmations (that you actually believe in) to yourself. Get these affirmation cards, choose one each day, and repeat it to yourself in the mirror.
I know it might sound crazy, but it’s very effective to boost your self confidence.
Related Post – How To Actually Make Affirmations Work For You
8. What Would Your Next Level Version Do?
I learned this from my coach, Faith Mariah. Basically, whenever you’re confused or doubtful, ask yourself what the next level version of you would do in this situation.
Do this today: Write down a day in your life 1 yr from now. Get really specific on everything. This will give you a clear picture on who you need to be to confidently achieve your goals.
How’s she sitting right now? Are you sitting like that already? Or did you change your posture?
If you are not behaving like the next level version of yourself, how can you get the results she has?
9. Visualize
We spend a lot of time thinking about the negative, it’s important to think about the other side as well. Spend some time intentionally every day to imagine what it would feel and look like to live that life.
You can close your eyes and visualize. Or write down in your journal, in the present tense, how you want your life to be.
It’ll help you get clear on what is it exactly that you want from your life. Which btw, most people don’t know. And motivate you and make you more confident in yourself and your dreams.
10. Have your own back
Now that you’re clear on what you want, make decisions and take actions that will move you closer to your goals.
The thing is, there are a 1000 ways to achieve your goals, which usually confuses people. But confident people don’t waste time indulging in the confusion. So, make a decision and love your reasons for making that decision.
Confusion kills your confidence.
If you feel a nudge to do something, it’s better to do it and analyze your results, instead of wasting time indulging in confusion and regretting it later.
11. Treat Others Well
When we are negative about everything around us, it is usually because we hate something going on in our lives. So, if you find it hard to love yourself, start by loving others unconditionally.
If you have a hard time believing in yourself, maybe start with believing in something bigger than you; i.e., the universe.
Be the leader you wanna be. Make people feel heard, go out of the way to help them and solve their problems.
Going from ‘I hate myself‘ to ‘I love myself‘ is not that easy. But thinking ‘I love my sister‘ is an easier perspective shift to make. And from there on, you can go to ‘She loves me.’ & ‘I love myself.‘
This blog post is all about how to be confident in yourself. Giving you 11 easy to execute tips to swear by in your 20s!