Happiness looks different for everyone. We often perceive happiness as something that we’ll achieve when we hit our goals. You believe that when you make a lot of money, lose weight, or become popular, you will finally be happy. But it doesn’t really work like that. Of course, it feels good to achieve your goals. But that is not how you achieve long term happiness.
Happiness is not an end goal, its a way of living. In fact, if you are chasing a goal for the right reasons, you’ll feel happy and motivated along the journey too. You can start living a happier life today if you make small changes to your mindset; it all starts there!.
“When things change inside you, things change around you.”
If you start making changes in your daily routine and the way you perceive regular things, a happy and satisfied life is within your reach.
7 Ways To Live A Happy Life
” Happiness isn’t something that happens to you, it’s something you create”
We all have the ability to make small changes in our attitude, surroundings, and relationships that can help set us on the path to a happier life. Easier said than done, right? No. Here are 7 ways how you can shift your mindset. Begin with these changes one at a time and you’ll eventually lead your way to a happier life.
1. Stop Complaining
We all have this nagging voice inside our heads that always points out the flaws in everything. You need to learn to silence that voice and focus on the bright side. Their is no such concept as good and bad. We are the ones who put this label.
So, the next time you find yourself complaining about random stuff, stop and ask yourself to find out one good thing in that situation, no matter how small. It may be difficult at first, but as you continue to do so, your perspective will begin to shift. Practice gratitude everyday. If you have a Morning routine, write down 3 things you’re grateful for, first thing in the morning.
2. Stop Trying To Please Everyone
This might be difficult for you, if you are a people pleaser. But understand this, you can’t and don’t have to seek everyone’s approvals. In fact, sometimes in order to fit in, we end up chasing artificial goals, only to find out that they do not bring us happiness. And sometimes the people you’re seeking approvals from aren’t even happy themselves.
“We spend the money we don’t have, to buy the things we don’t need, to impress the people we don’t like.”– Dave Ramsey
Being true to yourself is something that can boost your happiness. So, start by accepting yourself as you are. Make yourself a priority. Set healthy boundaries for yourself. People who really love you will understand and support you, no matter what.
3. Nothing Compares to You
It’s much easier to open Instagram and start comparing yourself to some influencer – who, by the way, are faking it half of the time. Stop being so harsh on yourself. Stop comparing there highlights to your low points. This is something we’re all guilty of. I find myself comparing myself to people who have nothing to do with my field. Not to mention that everyone has a different story, starting point, and pace of movement. If anything, try to learn things from your idols that will help you along the way.
4. Let Go Of The Unknown
We have this constant need to control or at least be aware of everything. But somethings reveal with time. Have faith in the process. Everything happens in it’s own time. It’s good to be someone who plans everything — it brings more structure to your life. But always leave room for the unexpected. You cannot figure out everything. We start feeling anxious when we don’t know what’s going to happen next.
However, according to a Harvard business review study, anxiety and excitement are similar emotions. So the next time, you feel anxious about something you can’t control, tell yourself you’re excited. This’ll help you in letting go and would make you feel content.
5. Don’t Try To Be Perfect
Perfection doesn’t exists. It’s one thing to strive to be your best and another trying to be perfect. Research has found that those who are on a mission of daily perfection can suffer greatly from depression, anxiety, or body image dissatisfaction. Perfectionists have a very critical mindset, which again results in comparing yourself or your work, leading to dissatisfaction. Learning from your mistakes is the only way to grow. In fact, people who seek perfection often end up procrastinating on their goals. So, learn to embrace your imperfections, they make you unique.
6. Live In The Moment
You can always catch yourself reminiscing the past or daydreaming about the future. But all we have right now is this moment — the present. We cannot change the past and don’t know what the future holds. And you don’t really need to worry about any of this because you are exactly where you need to be.
According to a Japanese technique, taking six deep breaths can change your state of mind and bring you back to the present moment. Being present in the moment enhances your life experience and allows you to appreciate the small things.
7. Have A Happy Company
Your company matters. According to an old adage, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. If you are around five optimistic people, you’ll probably be the sixth. It’s because the more emotions and experience we share with someone, the more our moods synchronize. We all know someone who’s always pessimistic and we feel bummed every time we talk to them.
Surround yourself with people who choose happiness. Avoid people who pull you down. In fact, studies have found that people who have more meaningful relationships in their lives tend to live longer. You need to make changes and start being intentional about who you spend your time with, in order to create a happier life.
What Makes You Happy?
What is that one habit brings happy vibes to your days? Choose 1-2 habits from this list and begin incorporating them into your routine. You need to be very intentional about it at first, but it will eventually become a part of your lifestyle.